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Divorced Parents Don’t Have to Suck
Laura Wasser’s (high profile divorce attorney to the stars) podcast is aptly titled “Divorce Sucks!” because, well, it does! But while divorce itself might suck, divorced parents don’t have to. As the daughter of divorced parents myself, I speak from experience. My mom and dad separated in the early 80s during the rise of America’s divorce rate. A time when more than half of my friends’ parents were also divorcing. Some of my now adult friends are still scarred from the experience, but it wasn’t as hard on me because of how my parents handled themselves. To this day, I see my parents as role models because they taught me the right way to resolve a conflict by not burning bridges. They showed me the ways to co-parent successfully so that I felt loved and supported throughout my childhood.
Divorced Parents Can Still Model A Healthy Relationship
The commonly held belief is that the kids of divorced parents grow up to have commitment problems, poor self-esteem, and trust issues. It’s assumed that because they didn’t grow up with two parents living in the same household, they must not know what a healthy relationship looks like. These misconceptions aren’t necessarily the case. Even though both of my parents have each been married three times, I have been happily married for almost twenty years.
